A Mother's Love and Pride

I just quickly wanted to share that I am so very proud of my son Tyler. Last night, he became the undeserved target of an adults anger. This person was so very angry and decided to direct some of that anger unfairly towards my son by trying to tear down his character. They were deliberately trying to cause harm by placing blame on him where blame was not due. I know, his Dad knows, other parties involved know, Tyler knows, and God knows, that he did not deserve the negative comments that were said about him.

Last night, we had a long talk with Tyler about how we cannot control the actions of others. In hurt and anger, people will sometimes make bad choices that results in others being harmed. It is sad that it happens but it is unfortunately a part of life. I explained to him that the most we can hope to take from it is to use the event as an opportunity to remind us that we can be different. We can make choices that don't deliberately tear people down but that help pick them up.

Tyler could have taken from this his own anger. Instead, after our talk, he decided that he wants to use what happened to him for good. He has decided to use it as a guide to remind him of the kind of person he wants to be. He has also decided to forgive this person and move on.

I have chosen to forgive too. Let me tell you though, that was tough. Any time someone is deliberately trying to hurt your child, you want to lash back with everything you have. It took all I had in me to not allow my anger to get the better of me. If either of my kids were ever in physical harm, I wouldn't hold back because me first priority is to protect my children. This was not the case though. Tyler was not physically threatened in any way. It was more of an emotional threat. It was damage that I was able to combat with love and as such, I have come to a place that I am also able to forgive.

I am very proud of my son Tyler. In the face of a difficult situation, he has chosen to handle himself with kindness and grace. It is unfortunate that he had to go through this but since he did, it is vitally important to me that he know how very proud his Mom and Dad are of him. We know the truth. We know that he is a Godly and loving young man. We are blessed every day by him and others are blessed by him too. That's what matters. He can continue to walk with his head held high because like us, he also knows the truth.

I would really like to stress to any parent out there to always be your child's biggest advocate. We as parents cannot protect our children from all of the bad in the world but we can ensure that they know that their mom and dad are in their corner. We can help them to work through their hardships and help to shape them into Godly men and women. We can help teach them how to combat bad with good, thereby, hopefully molding a new generation that is more loving, kind and compassionate than the last.

I'm so lucky to be Tyler's mom! I love you T-Man!